The Center of Who You Are


I think as a society we’ve got this “Love” word all wrong. It’s overused and constantly abused. I love my family and my friends. I also love chocolate.

Where did this dilution of the word “love” come from? How did we get to a place where we use the same word to speak about family as we did with the new recipe for cheesy potatoes?

Maybe I’m making this more of a big deal than it really is, but because of this dilution of the word I feel like we’ve had a dilution of the actual act itself. Who falls in love anymore? It’s really all about sex these days for a lot of people. In the past several months we’ve seen Rep. Anthony Weiner and Rep. David Wu get caught in “sex scandals” because they’re looking for something in this very moment. These men, like so many others, have sold out and thrown away their careers for something temporary.

Something that love is not.

I think that part of the problem is that love is so hard sometimes. I’d say it’s probably easy to fall in love, but to stay in love? That’s where the work comes in. To really love someone is to be honest with them. Say the hard things.


Man, that’s a loaded word. You mean I’m supposed to serve someone other than myself? That’s not the way we’re taught, and it’s definitely not the way we act.

“Love from the center of who you are; don’t fake it. Run for dear life from evil; hold on for dear life to good. Be good friends who love deeply; practice playing second fiddle” ~ Romans 12:9-10 The Message

I love the wording on that. “Love from the center of who you are; don’t fake it.”

Love is everything selfishness is not. Selfishness is trading your political career for sex. Selfishness is putting your needs and/or wants before anyone else’s. Selfishness is telling me what I want to hear to maybe avoid a confrontation or a breakdown.

Love serves first. Love plays second fiddle. Love is good and honest.

Love doesn’t sell out.

What’s your take on the dilution of love in society? What’s your definition?

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  • Oddly enough, I’ve been pondering on this in a different way. I’ve thought about Love but how love is giving yourself away. I am not my own any more. It’s not only about me. Of course, it never really is, but the more you love, the more. . . inconvenienced you are :o)

  • I think maybe we can pin a lot of this on ourselves as believers. Basically, our culture doesn’t know about true, sacrificial love anymore because we’re not showing it to them. True love shown to my friends and coworkers should make them think I’m absolutely crazy! So crazy that it changes them. Are we actually showing people what deep love, servant love, selfless love looks like?

    • I think you’re probably right, Becky. How are we supposed to expect people to love well if we don’t show them how?