Lonely vs. Alone


'The Lonely Hipster' photo (c) 2011, jintae kim - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/2.0/

I thought that the Holiday season would be a great time to put up this post. I’ve been writing and editing it in my head for weeks, but just haven’t felt the time was right to post it. I think the day before Thanksgiving seems just perfect. I’ve also put it off because it’s not something that I like to dwell on too much. It’s just not an easy post to write. But here it is.

Sometimes I feel lonely.

I think a person can be lonely in the midst of hundreds of people. You can reach out to different people and things, but there’s nothing quite right to fill that void. I’ve met a lot of lonely people, just looking for something to make them feel a little more complete.

On the flipside,I’ve never truly met someone who is 100% alone. It may seem like it. It may feel like there is no one around. And sometimes when you reach out there’s just no one there. I define “alone” as being completely apart from everyone and everything and having no part of civilization. That’s hard to do these days. It can be done, but it’d be hard.

Webster defines lonely as: “Producing a feeling of bleakness or desolation.” And while I agree with that in technical terms, I believe that there’s something more to it.

I came to the realization a few weeks ago when I was feeling a little lonely, that loneliness wasn’t a bad thing. I think that God has created in each of us a hope and a wish for something more, and I feel like that feeling of loneliness is just that longing for what He’s preparing for us, whether it be a new relationship or a new business venture or whatever dreams God has laid on your heart.

God has created us to long for Him. In longing for Him, we’re longing for His plans for us and His direction and purpose in our lives. And when we get those pangs of loneliness, maybe it means we’re not looking in the right direction. Maybe it means we’ve just quit moving forward.

But what I like to think is that maybe it means that we’re getting closer every second and that sometimes the wait just seems so long sometimes.

So I know this time of year can be hard at times. But just think of it this way. You’re just longing to be complete in God’s purpose and plan for you. And I think if we ever stop feeling this way every now and then, then that’s when we need to worry.

I don’t know. Maybe I’m wrong. I definitely don’t have all the answers.

What do you think? Feel free to share your opinions. No judgment here!

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  • Amy Book

    I have a love/hate relationship with lonely. I hate it because it reminds me that I can’t do it alone. I can’t live this life alone and be any good at it. No matter how much I want to be enough on my own, I’m not. But, then I love it. I love it because it reminds me that even when I feel all alone and not enough I’m reminded that I’m not. I’m not alone and I’m not not enough. I will never be left of forgotten. Yes, I am meant to be in relationship and yes, sometimes waiting on that one relationship that seems to be taking forever to get here might just kill me. But, I’m getting better at being me. And seeing more all the time the good in the waiting. He loves me, because He loves me, because He loves me.