We Do Pretty

'Outside our home' photo (c) 2007, Dave Stangl Jr - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0/

I did the sound and video at a conference my church put on this past Saturday.  I got to sit back and relax and not really have to do too much.


That’s a really hard job.  Kudos to all you sound and light people.  You’re my new heroes.

But one of the highlights of the day was the final speaker.  He’s a dynamic pastor that when he prays, I feel Jesus.  And when he preaches I feel like he’s talking directly to me, and so does everyone else in the room.

But Saturday he told the story of going to get his wife roses for Valentine’s Day.  He walked in and asked the salesperson what each of the colors meant with the roses.  As she told him, he was designing the bouquet  that he wanted to give to his wife based on the colors and meanings of each of the flowers.  After she was done telling him about each of the meanings, he asked her if she had that in writing anywhere that he could use to explain to his wife what the bouquet meant.  Her response?

We do pretty.  We don’t do knowledge.  

Really.  That’s what we do.  He was speaking to about 40 young women seeking to learn about purity and and self-worth and ultimately realizing that most what what they learn about relationships is pretty.  It’s fluffy.  And using his words again, we’re teaching kids how to build houses instead of teaching them to make a home.  We can make everything on the outside look so appealing to the rest of the world, but on the inside we’re a big fat mess.

I know problems are hard to work through and that it’s easier to push them back and not deal with them.  But we must.  I know that dealing with our past is sometimes painful.  But we have to fight through.

No one has it all together.  Not a single person.

They may look like it on the outside, but on the inside?  We all have scars and broken places that have either been repaired or are still gaping open.

My challenge to you?  Dig in.  Don’t settle for being less than you can be.  And hold on for the ride.

Ultimately this road will take you to the best possible you.

The you that you were created to be.

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